I’ve been wanting to write this blog post for awhile and I think my 30 Years blog post has inspired me to finally write it.
In 30 years I’ve met a lot of people and have become friends with a lot of people. Over those same amount of years I’ve also lost some friends or have just moved on. It’s natural and happens to everyone. You can never be friends with everyone you meet. There is just not enough time for that.
I think the first of your major friend divisions is when you leave High School. You go off to Collage or start work and that’s where your new life long friends will start. For the most part the high school friends are just a stage and sets you up to make and developed those life long friend you have today. That’s not to say you don’t have friends from before high school. I’m very fortunate to have quite a few friends from around my high school days, however I never went to school with them. It wasn’t until my NAIT days where I have found one of my best friends and almost can be considered family. It’s in these places you really find that person that means a lot to you.
The next stage in your life that will alter where your friends come and go will be when you date someone. That’s always the hard thing because if you are together long enough you develop strong friendships. Then the breakup comes and you are forced to pick a side. Its hard but what can you do, you try to make it work. I’ve never been on the shitty side of a breakup with regards to friends but from what I’ve seen if you really want to make it work you can. You almost have to respect the fact that the person made friends with your significant others friends and that’s just life.
The last stage that I can really comment on with friends would be when they have kids. If you do not align having kids with your friends having kids then you sorta get left out. It’s not all that bad, it just means if you don’t have kids and your friends do then you’ll be seeing them less. It’s just a fact of life. I’ve got many friends that are this way and I see them maybe a handful of times in a year because they are so busy with their kids. It’s not until you have kids I think, that you’ll reconnect a bit more because your kids will end up playing with your friends kids and then you end up reconnecting with your friendship again. I’m really looking forward to having kids and experiencing that part of my life with my other friends.
However until that comes I’ll enjoy where I am at with the friends I’m friends with!